Why Study This Mantra...You will learn how to overcome failure – turning it into a strength... and strengthen yourself in the process.
The fear of failure affects how you live and experience life. Its gravity pulls you back toward thinking and acting the same, and getting the same results. But you can overcome this. It requires a change in perspective.
Life is something that's designed by you, starting at this point forward. This month, you'll learn to reframe failures as prototypes in your life design. You'll learn that you are not your failure. You'll develop skills and habits aimed at making you smarter and stronger for your next failure.
Before you begin...
Before you start thes practices and challenges, take a moment to rate yourself on this mantra. Give yourself a score from 1-10 (10 being the highest).
Do this again at the end of a month of practices and challenges. How much have you grown?
Today's affirmation: "Failing doesn't make me a failure; It makes me one step closer to success."
As I put on this mantra this morning, I will reaffirm that failure is a sign I'm challenging myself to do something difficult. I can handle failure. I can learn from my failures. Then once I have learned, I will move past it and not dwell on it.
Develop Your Healthy Coping Skills
Next time you're down, resist distracting yourself or filling the void you feel with food, drugs, alcohol, or whatever's your UN-healthy go-to self-medication.
Instead, develop your healthy coping skills. This could be many things, such as calling a friend, taking a bubble bath, going for a walk, playing with your pet, or doing the breathing practice you developed in the previous mantra, to name a few. Make a list of ones that work for you and hang it somewhere prominent where it can serve as a reminder to you next time you need it.
Log Your Failures
As I remove my mantra tonight, I will take 5-10 minutes to write down in my journal:
Where did I fail today?
- Screw ups: Did I make any simple mistakes which I normally get right? (If necessary, apologize and move on.)
- Weaknesses: Did I have any failures because of one of my permanent failings? The kind that I make over and over? (If so, ask yourself how you can avoid these situations in the future.)
- Growth Opportunities: Did I fail in any way which didn't have to happen or at least shouldn't happen next time? Where the cause was identifiable and can be fixed? (If so, what insight can I capture that can change things next time. Write this down not just here, but wherever you'll see it upon next opportunity for use.)
If you can't come up with any today, that's okay! Congrats on your flawless day! Come back to this exercise again tomorrow.